Anonymous asked:
I'm a trans man in a relationship with a trans woman. Our partnership is great… except for the sex. What I find really hard is that our dynamic is mostly me doing stuff to her. She comes regularly and I pretty much never do. She says that penetration is so fraught for her that even using toys on me is tricky, which is hard for me to understand and just seems really selfish, even though I believe she’s telling the truth about her experience.
I guess from the information here like yr best case scenario is that you have some sexual compatibility issues that need to either be resolved by one of multiple options or like aren’t resolvible and then you need to choose what your priorities are.
I would say that most people are not like, selfish or self centered exclusively when it comes to sex. Is this in line with how you generally see yr gf (some people are okay with having a less conscientious partner)? or is it against type and she is otherwise not self-centered this way? Because i feel like that would be a pretty good indicator of whether that is what’s happening or not.
I can’t say that I totally … get it, but there could be a lot of reasons, dysphoria or trauma related, for her to have this sort of feeling. I’m not sure if this was the case from the start (for both her lack of interest or your own interest in that kind of sex) or what - i would say that even if you were to figure out exactly why the situation is at hand, that probably doesn’t mean there’s gonna be a great solution that just… makes it happen. And personally, i don’t think i would just wait around for something like that to change, at the very least because without a lot of trust it would be hard to know what changed enough for it not to be a situation of someone pushing their own sort of boundaries in a way that might not have the best outcomes.
don’t really know if there is a question here, or if you are solicity advice or just sympathy. I dunno, it feels like kinda a sticky situation - maybe worth figuring out if you’d just rather have sex w other people who are more compatible with what you want? Or whether there are ways for penetration to be happening during sex that aren’t like active on her end (plugs, suction cup dildo, etc). either way, i think it’s better to like talk about why that’s important to you without problematizing why that is so difficult for her. but it makes sense to like talk abt a lack of reciprocity here at the very least to try to find maybe a way for that to be less asymmetrical even still within her limits
you: sending me the 20th anon message this morning of feigned ‘worry’ abt my husband because i made a blowjob joke in line w what numerous cis women do
me: making a nice blackberry chocolate strawberry banana smoothie for hir while ze recovers
Brené Brown’s Guide to Sociopathy here on the internet today
Anonymous asked:
i have killed animals, i have almost been killed, i have been in fights, i have punched people in the face, i have been punched in the face and that's majority of the reason i give myself the permission to be unhinged online because i am unhinged offline. kill yourself
i hope you understand that this is literally more pathetic lol
i love this like fight club meets the courage to heal shit
something funny is how there is this trend among like certain demographics where they will do these wildly over the top like super-violent threats or imaginaries in a way that is reminiscent of like how people who haven’t had sex like have like very heightened and perhaps idiosyncratic sexual imaginaries ime and there’s just something funny abt watching someone who in all likelihood has never even killed or skinned an animal let alone been present near or engaged with actual dead bodies like do this whole song and dance of like (frequently sexualized) violence voyeurism. like, most people who have some knowledge of violence don’t have to like … do all that.
me when i’m watching straw dogs or midsommar
it is no longer 2013, it is 2021: time to stop using dating and hookup apps seemingly solely to be annoying to make shitty content for twitter/tumblr
Living for these (UK) studies of trans peoples sexual orientations — including the fact that we are getting close as a community to eradicating unironic heterosexuality completely
Also an interesting look into how the “all trans men are gay” idea (or that idea that it’s rooted in testosterone) is more abt the ways that gayness is parsed differently w men than it is w women , since in this survey trans men were the group w the negligibly highest heterosexual identification as well as the least exclusively-same-gender oriented. In terms of what “makes you gay” it seems the answer is… being trans at all
okay but people recognize that solar energy as it is currently done isn’t like actually a completely renewable energy due to how the limited-lifespan panels require a finite amount of rare earth/critical metals right? this isn’t to argue against moving away from fossil fuels but to say that wide scale reduction of energy use is a much more physically feasible (not to speak to politically or socially feasble) approach than just “replacing all fossil fuel energy w solar/wind power”
got blocked by one of the Big Twitter Trannies who just came out 30 minutes ago and immediately got surgery access and thinks that makes them some sort of community elder for a very measured pushback on the idea that the only reason a trans woman who dislike Ron Pauls Drag Race is because they are an awful non-faggot trans dyke (which never have been or are perceived as fags now) and its like. you literally just posted this week about doing makeup for the first time, like worry abt yr eyeshadow :). you were probably just one of those cis gays who was mad at trannies for taking away language from Lance Bass in 2011